Feminist Fred

A man chases women until he finds one who allows him to fuck her, impregnate her, and thereby own her life. This is the essential meaning of marriage, if you strip away all the details about God and legalities and shades of moral do’s and don’ts. The chasing of women, the relentless pursuit, is what reveals marriage as the brutish and domineering thing it really is.

The fear of gay marriage must be closely related to the fear of dominant gays. Men, or dominant sex partners, no matter what sex, will be allowed to chase women, or whichever sex they target, that they see as submissive or open to being seduced. The idea of sex itself is drenched in coercion and male supremacy, and marriage is the codification of the essential underlying meaning of sex being about pursuing and winning. Putting this power into the hands of gays means allowing them the same privilege to openly pursue those who haven’t chosen to be gay but who can be had by the same mixture of cunning and force that men use on women.

It has taken me a really long time to even come this close to understanding the fear and outrage straight people feel about gay marriage, since I have a nature that has never really been comfortable with my given role as a predator. Once you see that the echos of rape resound throughout the entire construction of arousal and sexuality in a patriarchy, you stop being befuddled by the moral window dressing that they all use to disguise their unexplored fears and desires.

So the sum of my understanding of the fear of gay sex and marriage is this: If we let those gays openly marry each other, they can openly pursue anyone they want, and that means that gay people will start raping, owning and marrying straight people. The idea that anyone can rape and enslave someone is a subtle threat to male privilege.

I can’t help but feel awe about the unbelievably fine and delicate sensitivity of male privilege to the slightest threat from any side. For something that most people would swear does not exist, it certainly has a robust self-preservation instinct, even in the face of total emotional chaos, which is how I used to characterize the fear of gay marriage.

 

My little girl is getting close to five now and I’ve read her hundreds of children’s books, from the bookstore and from the library. I’ve also watched hundreds of hours of children’s TV with her. I have no objective statistics to back up my general finding, but I defy anyone to disprove that sex bias is universal in children’s education and entertainment.

I can pick up five books at random and every character in them, even if they are androgynous-looking animals, will be male. In the remainder of rare books with female character, she is never the lead character, always a character observed by the main character or supporting the main character. It’s not that the girls are bad characters. It’s simply that they never have the center stage, unless it’s a girl book about princesses or something like that. 

The default character in children’s literature is definitely male. Considering how many women write children’s books, it’s almost tragic. Many men and women in our world today will look askance at this obvious truth and ask me “What’s wrong with that?” Well, it’s fundamental training to put girls in their place, for one thing. Book after book celebrates and demonstrates that only men can have the center stage, only men count, even that only men exist. 

My little girl really doesn’t like boys that much. She’s not friends with any of the boys at her school and refuses to wear boy colors, which are pathetically limited and easily-identifiable by any parent: Dark blue, brown, black, and anything with violent graphics or male superheroes. I can’t blame her a bit. When I was a kid I didn’t have to wear ultra-butch clothes to try to force me from seeming the slightest bit feminine, or insufficiently masculine, whichever the case may be.

So she has me change the gender of characters she likes to female when it makes sense to her, such as when they are genderless animals, and there is no conceivable reason why they should be one sex or the other. And this doesn’t even begin to even the score. But she likes it, so I do it happily. This is something she decided on her own, with no prompting from her mom or me. 

When you consider that boys do worse in school than girls, while being the center of attention on shows and books for kids, you have to wonder if we were to switch the bias whether the boys would start to do better than the girls.

The raped are now the rapists

One of the most horrible trends in modern life for women is the legal drift towards softening the definition of rape. There is an idea out there that men can be raped, too, as long as they are young enough, which does not make any sense at all if you see these men. They are huge, powerful, sexually active rape machines ready to coerce and exploit weakness and the submissive training women get from childhood on.

There was recently a case in the paper here in St. Louis about a teacher who was prosecuted for raping boys 13 to 16 years old. She said she was forced to have sex with them, but her defense didn’t hold up, because a colleague of hers claimed that when she spoke about it to her, she never mentioned being forced.

Rape. She was forced to perform oral sex on these boys and the prosecutors successfully charged her with rape and sent her to prison.

Just another addition to the already growing list of legal excuses to allow men to rape women. If a man is young enough he is allowed to rape as many women over 21 as he wishes and simply claim that they raped him, making it impossible to prosecute. I suspect that the teacher, Cathy Heminghaus, knew this and it probably played an important part in her feelings of being trapped and intimidated by those kids, who were the real criminals.

My readers, few as they are, yet much appreciated by me, might want to help me list all the latest legal excuses for raping women. I know that dressing provocatively is a great legal case for wanting to be raped, as is being drunk, asking for it then changing your mind, and many other things.

But it took me a long time to blog about this case, though it has been outraging me for weeks now as I followed what little of it I could glean from our once-great and now pathetic local paper. The full horror of teens being able to rape teachers as much as they please and then send the teachers to jail for doing it was just too much for my tender heart to take. It just makes me so sick.