http://www.feministfred.com/archives/97 Radical feminism for humans with male parts. Mon, 22 Feb 2010 00:40:44 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 http://www.feministfred.com/archives/97/comment-page-1#comment-523 Shiny Sun, 15 Feb 2009 19:51:37 +0000 http://www.feministfred.com/?p=97#comment-523 Most men do seem to be quite low on empathy, but I think the reason they like to dominate women is bigger than that. Men are taught to experience life as a relentless competition. The other players in the game are, of course, men, but women figure into the equation in the form of obstacles to be overcome in order to increase one's score against other men. Therefore men are not allowed to be content with their lives for very long or they risk falling behind. The whole paradigm is vaguely reminiscent of the Victorian era where women were taught that "good girls don't like sex," which, taken to the extreme, caused all kinds of problems once they were married and were supposed to want sex with their husbands. The new paradigm seems to be "The best sex is the wildest, most exciting sex. Always pursue the best sex." In this way, arousal has been tied to adrenaline, and sex without an element of danger or novelty or "naughtiness" has lost its lustre. Most men do seem to be quite low on empathy, but I think the reason they like to dominate women is bigger than that. Men are taught to experience life as a relentless competition. The other players in the game are, of course, men, but women figure into the equation in the form of obstacles to be overcome in order to increase one’s score against other men. Therefore men are not allowed to be content with their lives for very long or they risk falling behind. The whole paradigm is vaguely reminiscent of the Victorian era where women were taught that “good girls don’t like sex,” which, taken to the extreme, caused all kinds of problems once they were married and were supposed to want sex with their husbands. The new paradigm seems to be “The best sex is the wildest, most exciting sex. Always pursue the best sex.” In this way, arousal has been tied to adrenaline, and sex without an element of danger or novelty or “naughtiness” has lost its lustre.

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