The raped are now the rapists
One of the most horrible trends in modern life for women is the legal drift towards softening the definition of rape. There is an idea out there that men can be raped, too, as long as they are young enough, which does not make any sense at all if you see these men. They are huge, powerful, sexually active rape machines ready to coerce and exploit weakness and the submissive training women get from childhood on.
There was recently a case in the paper here in St. Louis about a teacher who was prosecuted for raping boys 13 to 16 years old. She said she was forced to have sex with them, but her defense didn’t hold up, because a colleague of hers claimed that when she spoke about it to her, she never mentioned being forced.
Rape. She was forced to perform oral sex on these boys and the prosecutors successfully charged her with rape and sent her to prison.
Just another addition to the already growing list of legal excuses to allow men to rape women. If a man is young enough he is allowed to rape as many women over 21 as he wishes and simply claim that they raped him, making it impossible to prosecute. I suspect that the teacher, Cathy Heminghaus, knew this and it probably played an important part in her feelings of being trapped and intimidated by those kids, who were the real criminals.
My readers, few as they are, yet much appreciated by me, might want to help me list all the latest legal excuses for raping women. I know that dressing provocatively is a great legal case for wanting to be raped, as is being drunk, asking for it then changing your mind, and many other things.
But it took me a long time to blog about this case, though it has been outraging me for weeks now as I followed what little of it I could glean from our once-great and now pathetic local paper. The full horror of teens being able to rape teachers as much as they please and then send the teachers to jail for doing it was just too much for my tender heart to take. It just makes me so sick.
Freida | 21-Sep-08 at 9:00 am | Permalink
Thank you for noting this. I don’t think there is a trend toward legalizing rape, because it has always been legal to some extent. Most of the time it was considered illegal only when a man raped some other man’s property (wife or daughter). If no one claimed her, she was fair game.
But I am alarmed and disgusted when, every Halloween, kids come to my door who are much larger than I am (I’m average size, 5′6″). I assume they are in the 13-16 year range, and ought to be embarrassed to be still mooching. They could easily overpower a teacher my size. Possibly due to the hormones in food, they are becoming sexually mature at an earlier age, while emotional maturity continues to elude them.
I knew a boy who, in the sixth grade, raped a smaller girl. He was suspended from school, but his parents rewarded him by taking him to a much nicer country.
Didn’t you know that simply being female is a reason for wanting to be raped? The “date rape” drugs have been legal for a long time (some may be made illegal soon), so it isn’t necessary to get a woman drunk – just a few sips are all it takes to make her completely unconscious all night. I was raised to be extremely naive and trusting (just like that article, “When Violence Knocks and Politeness Answers”), because it’s so rude and unladylike to be at all suspicious. Predators can sense this vulnerability a mile away. I had never heard of such drugs at the age of 18, and didn’t know about them for many years after that, so I had absolutely no idea of what had happened to me until many years later.
Women who dress provocatively of course want to be raped, as well as girls who run away from home. Getting married means she agrees to rape by her husband, though not by other men. Ugly women obviously want to be raped, because they’re so desperate – “Who would wanna fuck HER?” The ugly teacher is herself guilty of rape because those poor boys couldn’t possibly want her, but the beautiful teacher is guilty because those poor boys couldn’t possibly resist her. The system is set up so that women cannot win.
Signing up for the military is a perfect sign that she needs to be raped. If she dares to blow the whistle on anything, rape plus murder is nearly assured, and the military is above the law so nothing is done about it. Contractors in Iraq are similarly free from the justice system.
In the Middle East, gang rape is an acceptable punishment for being so evil as to have a brother who commits a crime. After she is raped, the family will most likely kill her to preserve their “honor.” Going out without male owners is begging for rape, or at least severe harassment. (That is even true, to a lesser extent, in the West.) In the Congo, just existing is enough to warrant rape.
Anywhere women try to climb out of the box to which they have been assigned, such as working in a male-dominated field, rape is considered the ideal way to put them back in their place. I could go on forever, but it looks like I already have.
belenen | 21-Sep-08 at 3:13 pm | Permalink
“…just too much for my tender heart to take.”
damn, do I know what you mean. :-( it is so HARD to realize that we live in a rape culture. So hard to live with that every day.
Freida | 23-Sep-08 at 8:21 am | Permalink
I don’t mean to take over your blog, Fred, but I neglected to mention the most common legalized rape other than marriage: prostitution. Victimless crime, my ass. Wherever it is legal or overlooked, men can pay to feel they have every right to rape someone. They don’t even call it rape, but it is. Wherever it is illegal, they arrest the prostitutes as if they are the criminals. USING a prostitute should be illegal, not being one! I wonder, how can people be so obtuse? Then I remember, they are cleverly ensuring that women and the poor continue to be enslaved.
PBS had a program showing how common it is for Western men to “vacation” in Cambodia and other Asian countries which have very poor people and no value of females. The creeps are taking advantage of these conditions to rape little girls for a small fee. Ah, how they love the Asian culture. I wish they could put those creeps in jail to get a taste of their own medicine, but it never happens.
Fred | 23-Sep-08 at 8:32 am | Permalink
Please feel free to comment as much as you like, Frieda. I agree that prostitution is an act of rape, seeing how it is economic coercion. When I was in San Francisco last month on vacation I noticed that they are trying to legalize it there, which is another way of making it easier to rape a woman and get away with it. Just a drop a few dollars after you are done raping a woman and it’s a legal act of prostitution. Who can prove she didn’t ask for the money?
The full horror of rape is something I can’t believe everyone feels. Yet men can only feel the full horror of knowing that if they rape some woman they might go to jail and be raped themselves. Ask any man about rape and the conversation instantly turns to the question of men being unfairly convicted of rape they didn’t do.