The only other point I would raise is I can’t objectify someone as a f*ckdoll if I’m busy respecting her agency and her decision regarding consent.

I think you misread the line about “finding the limits” in that I find the decrease in sex drive that comes with age to be a different kind of frustration than the frustration of rampant desire. I feel that I was sold a bill of goods about what women find attractive, that I was lied to, and cheated, and made to play the fool, mainly in the context of a 1990s university indoctrination system dominated by lesbian feminists. There are enough women excited by being dominated and by inequality that it seems to give the lie to the Sensitive New Age Guy. Be that as it may, my praxis is not as awful as my discourse, in that whatever sex I DO have has been mainly respectful of my partners, and in order to not pass the TMI limit, I’ll just say that I’ve recognized and eliminated pornified preferences.

For all that, women do have a default status as dehumanized objects of desire, and wedging them firmly into that role with sexual violence and harassment does tremendous damage every day.

As a fellow misogynist, I understand your feelings and used to accept them as fully as you do. Every man in a misogynist culture is a misogynist, the only difference being there are a few who actually don’t think being a misogynist is a great way to deal with half of the world, which happens to be female.

I would paraphrase the MRA position as “If I had MORE power, I’d be enjoying it.”

Women find it hard to think of themselves as someone who must sexually service men. Say you have blue eyes. What if you were born into a culture that believed that men with blue eyes were also put on this planet to sexually service men? Every time some ugly guy presumes you had to bend over and take his diseased dick up your ass you would have to do it, whether or not you were aroused. This is why women feel this way. They don’t really want to be the gatekeepers of sex. It’s not a pleasant job, if you think about it.

Finding the limits of your hydraulics is something you think is a great idea, as if sex were some kind of athletic competition. Being denied that opportunity by women is your view, but in reality you can find those limits by jacking off to porn. Women hear something like this and think you are trying to use them to prove something. Again, put yourself in their place and see how you feel.

You are also what feminists refer to as a “Nice Guy.” You expect women to be aroused by you because you are nice, and then interpret non-feminist women’s response to guys who aren’t nice as proof that women prefer guys who aren’t nice. Arousal is never that easy, and a lot of men are successful at seduction because they are manipulative and pushy, not nice. Yet, their relations with women are pretty bad, even when the women continues to try to please them, because of the innate problems of being a woman in a misogynist world.

What you can get from feminism is a greater understanding of all the little things you don’t understand about women. As men, we’re trained from birth to see things from our point of view, and discouraged, if not ridiculed, for seeing things from a woman’s point of view, which is dismissed by most men as incomprehensible and emotional. Most women in this world do see their job as pleasing men, and they get confusing signals about what their reward is for pleasing men sexually. If you’re a slut, you get contempt and degradation, if you’re a good girl, you’re keeping men you don’t want from sex you don’t want to have. Either way, sex defines you when men relate to you, and as that realization begins to dawn on you, even subconsciously, the idea that your place in society isn’t a human being, but a fuck machine. This feeling is what women call being objectified. And they feel it constantly, especially if they are good looking and young.

Here’s what I think about sex. Imagine you have a daughter, and you love her like you love yourself. What kind of sex life would you want her to have? I want my daughter to have fun, to not be controlled or used by men who don’t really like her or regard her as a full human being, and to have sex as a means to pleasure without stigma; as an expression of love. When you look at a woman you want to fuck, if you don’t think first of how she thinks of love and sex, then you are thinking first of tits and ass; the superficial object before you who arouses you because you have been trained to respond to women this way by a pornsick world.